Cyberlove

I felt it it would only be proper to leave my fellow surfers with an idea or a perception on the issues of Cyberlove. Although I admit I am no guru on the subject, there are some things I know well enough, that I'll mention them here. Be advised that I only speak from my own experiences, and will not venture any further than that.

Cyberlove, a twist of irony. A word that fumes many spouses, and excites the curious minded. It's a definition that has become a common phrase, as we prepare to take technology into the 21st century. But what exactly is it? Is it different than real love? I can give you a two-fold answer.

Cyberlove is many things, and depending on the people who are involved, it can be very real. Or it can be a farce. Just ask any man or women who have been jilted by someone. Who, for reasons I will not go into, "dumped" them. In some ways, cyberlove is no different than high school courtship. If you don't believe me on this, check out some chat rooms just about anywhere, and in most rooms, you'll find out that someone "belongs" to somebody else. It's amusing. Considering that these same two people have made plans to meet, and in most cases, it never happens. The reality is: there is someone else, and that someone is probably a real life spouse or girlfriend/boyfriend. I get the email to support my statement.

Then there are success stories. Woohoo! Oh yeah, do I love those. People successfully connecting, not only on chat, but in real life as well. It can happen. It does happen. It happened to me. In saying that, I will acknowledge that it took a great deal of honesty to make it work. Hiding behind a nickname or computer screen, pretending to be some "knight in shining armor" will not work. That's the gist of it. Honesty. I get email from the "hopeful", who, like everyone else, wants a successful relationship. Then there is email from people who have gotten together. The rest are horror stories.

It would be foolish to think that finding love online is the way to go. Actually, I don't recommend it, even though I found my sweetheart that way. The are several factors that weigh in on my decision. For one, there are too many people, men and women alike, who get their kicks from "playing" the chat rooms. I have witnessed several online romances fall by the wayside, and even though I cannot see the other party, I know that they are real human beings who hurt. Being jilted hurts regardless if its online or in real life. It would be impossible for me to explain every situation. There are good people out there, who put their whole heart into a cyber relationship, only to watch it crumble when the heat is on. You got players, fakers, and the typical male "casanovas" who actually believe they are a real ladies' man. These same people have no concern about who they are hurting or playing. To them, its no big deal.

In conclusion, I'll say that in spite of whether cyberlove blooms or not, it feels no different than if it were occuring in real life. If you can get past the fact that on the other side of your computer screen, there are real live human beings sitting there, typing back to you, then you'll be ok. Don't expect too much all at once. Get to know the people you chat with, (I would suggest more than the average two week period). Let love find you. You never know, it may not be online.

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