A Fresh Start

Like the people in them, relationships change with time.  Rekindle the intimacy and relight the spark that has dwindled in your love life.   

It is all too easy for couples in long term relationships to fall into a pattern where love and intimacy are lost or sidelined. Although living together, couples can begin to live totally separate lives if they don’t work hard to be together. Relationships can only work if both you and your partner keep making the effort to keep love alive. The two most important things about maintaining a successful relationship are communicating with your partner and keeping romance alive. If you follow these two rules you can rekindle the warmth and spark that might have gone out of your relationship, whoever you are.

Communication

You might think that after been together for years you and your partner have nothing to say to one another, but really you have plenty. If communicating is difficult, why not try talking to your partner about some of the good times you’ve had together. Describe a time you were really happy together and how it made you feel. Give it a go and you'll feel far more secure in your relationship, you might even end up arranging to do something together that perhaps you haven't done in years. Talking to your partner is also important if you want to avoid any problems building up into full scale arguments. A word of advice, if you want to put an end to petty arguments, a little give and take is required.

Relight the Romance

All too often couples that have been together for a long time forget the importance of romance. Make the time to spend alone and say "I love you" more often. Surprise one another with little gestures or gifts and remember what it was that first brought you together. You'll be surprised at how little romantic gestures can increase the feelings of love in a relationship. This may seem a little obvious, but one of the best ways to rekindle love and intimacy in a relationship is through sex. It is well proven that couples who regularly have sex are less likely to drift apart. While our bodies might not be as physically able as they once were, the emotional benefits of making love are invaluable for the wellbeing of any relationship.

Make time to love each other by forgetting about the stresses and worries of everyday life and concentrate on what's important - your relationship. After all, you've come this far together, so it must be worth a little effort.

By Janet Swanson

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