How About A Quickie?

A "quickie" anyone? There is nothing wrong with a brief, hot, torrid (and also exciting) sexual encounter. Sometimes you just want to have a pure unadulterated sex and then get on with whatever you were doing.

At one time or another, most of us think about a quickie, but are often reluctant to request it. Quickies are great. They are a quick turn-on - admittedly, sometimes not too romantic - but all part of incredible sex. They satisfy a healthy urge to connect with the one you love, to express love briefly and so to sleep or whatever is next.

Be courageous! Be spontaneous! Quickies can serve as a healthy way to relieve the stress of the day in a carefree, yet loving way, AND there must be agreements. If you can BOTH agree to an occasional quickie, do it; if not. . . don't!

How about doing it in the back seat of your car, on the edge of the hot tub, on the floor in the bathroom, in the back yard under a tree on a blanket or on the kitchen table?

Quickies can be useful for a quick connection to satisfy your lover even when you may not be in the mood. This applies to both women and men. Most men would love for their lover to suggest some fast action.

Almost anyone can be turned-on long enough for a quickie when they know they are not expected to perform long and hard. Quickies keep the fire of love alive.

It is not okay to only have "quickies." Having an occasional quickie demonstrates a healthy attitude about sex. But only having quickies does not let you off the hook if you are prone to always be too busy to have a romantic sexual interlude that lasts beyond two minutes! Use common sense.

If you only always have quickies, that's just having sex. A loving, healthy relationship demands balance. Making love. . . really making love, taking time for each other, provides the appropriate balance needed to have a relationship thrive.

Acknowledge your desire for a quickie to your love partner and watch what happens.

By Larry James

Copyright © 2002 - Larry James. Reprinted with permission. - This article is adapted from Larry's books, "How to Really Love the One You're With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship," "LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing" and "Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers." Author Larry James presents "Relationship Enrichment LoveShops" and personal relationship coaching for singles and couples. Contact: CelebrateIntimacy.com, P.O. Box 12695, Scottsdale, AZ 85267-2695. LarryJames@CelebrateIntimacy.com - www.CelebrateIntimacy.com

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