The important role of grandparentsPosted on: 01 November 2011 by Diane Priestley
Grandparents provide support, care and a haven for growing children - so why is their contribution so undervalued?
I remember our kids’ early childhood: the Christmas my Mum abd Dad presented my two-year-old daughter, Justine, with a giant fluffy bear bigger than herself; the birthday they gave her the bicycle with trainer wheels; the time my father spent with my son - teaching him how to swing a golf club and how they tinkered in the shed together.
It was a reliable ritual and a refuge in their young lives. There was no place safer and more fun than Nana and Pa’s cosy lounge.
Grandparents play an important role in the lives of children. They offer an additional buffer zone of adult security, affection and attention. When Mum and Dad are tired and cranky and nagging about cleaning up your room, Nana and Pa are soft as butter and just melt at the sight of your cute little face.
Most older people have reached a stage of life where they have the patience and time to play games and go places. We can do the things we were too busy to do with our own kids.
Grandparents and great grandparents give children a link to another generation; a sense of their family history; a perspective of the past and a concept of the continuity of life; a respect for old age.
Pressured young parents are also fortunate if they have the support of their own parents who willingly lend a hand with babysitting and share in the pleasures and delights of their children.
It is sad for children who miss out on having loving grandparents actively participate in their lives. As experienced adults we can have a positive input into kids’ character formation; role-modeling valuable skills and qualities.
My own kids would certainly not be the well-rounded, confident, successful adults they are without the influence of their Nana and Pa in their formative years.
Likewise, it is sad for grandparents who pass up involvement with their grand kids, preferring immersion in their own interests, because children can bring an enriching dimension to the later years.
And the tragedy for many grandparents and kids is losing that precious relationship when parents divorce. I believe that loving grandparents have a right to continue a relationship with their grandchildren even after family breakdown.
And this right has finally been recognised in the UK. Since March 2011 grandparents have been granted the legal right to maintain contact with their grandchildren after a family breakdown or divorce.
Of course just as not all parents are good for kids, not all grandparents are a positive influence. Some grandparents become caught up in taking sides in a marriage break-up and get into kids’ ears, bad mouthing the other parent.
It’s important for grandparents to stay neutral in the battle zone and simply provide a refuge. Confused kids will benefit from the stability they offer.
Parents, and society generally, must value grandparents and respect, protect and encourage the important and vitally enriching relationship between the grandparents and their grandkids.
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